Mon 7 Feb 2005
Listening To: Original Pirate Material : The Streets
Looking back over my last post, I was struck by the sense of something which is probably readily apparent to rest of our regular readers, and has been brewing in my sub-conscious for a while, but up till now I’ve refused to acknowledge.
It’s an almost-indefinable sense of something ‘missing’. Of course, on first glance a lot of what’s ‘missing’ from my life these days as opposed to a decade ago is the painful-immediecy of multiple ongoing chemical addictions, and the youthful bravado of concerted intent-to-shock. Being free of those imperatives is certainly something I certainly don’t regret. But if you scratch the surface, I think it’s more than that.
For better or worse, a decade ago you certainly couldn’t accuse yours truly of not ‘living’ in the rawest sense of the term. I firmly believed back then, as I still do now, in ’sucking the marrow out of life’ to paraphrase The Dead Poets Society. At times lately though, I must admit it feels like DB ain’t living up to that ideal with quiet the same zeal he once used to.
If you’d told me at 17 that I’d end up chained to a desk, doing a job I loathe and which I really think is slowly but surely killing my soul (along with my body … my eyesight is surely getting worse again from staring at the screen all day !), getting drunk on a regular basis for want of anything more intelligent to do, living in Sydney, worrying about mundane things like making my measley paycheque last a whole fornight, not reading, with barely enough time to write and no time at all anymore to write music … well, I would have probably laughed at you and called you more than a few dirty names !
Yet all this, and more, alas has come to pass. The ‘weightiest’ matter on my mind right now is remembering to program the video recorder to tape Desperate Housewives for my flat-mate, and getting enough time to go for a jog after I get home from work before cleaning the inside of the fridge. It would seem as if my day-to-day existence has been all but reduced to the banal, one-dimensional, vacuous travesty-of-a-life I used to so voiceiferrously rail against in my late teens.
Perhaps part of it is that all this is so different from what I expected back then, and from what my life used to be. I used to be the guy who was always pissing off overseas or interstate, living in strange places and sleeping with bizarre, artistic, troubled people for extended periods of time, while my friends were stuck in Sydney, going through a series of short term relationships with normal people whom at the time I perceived for the most part as spectacularly ‘dull’ (sorry guys !).
Now, my two best friends are living in Perth and London respectively, virtually everyone I know is ‘coupled up’ and has been with their partners for what seems like an eternity, and here I am living back in the town I swore I’d left forever 6 years ago, only recently having entered a ‘promising’ relationship after a series of short-term duds and god-awful dates. While she’s neither bizarre nor troubled (thankgod !), my partner is a far more talented musician than I am among other things, and I find myself wondering at times whether I haven’t become the ‘dull’ counter-point to her buoyant vitality.
Essentially what this all points to, I think, is that DB is somewhat overdue for a bit of a change. I’m not talking about following through on the series of SMS’s I sent my mate in the UK towards the end of last year - “give me six months and I’m probably gonna be flatting with you, Taz”.
I’m not talking about leaving the lovely IG either, since she’s turning out to be the sanest choice I’ve made in a long time and the best thing that’s happened to me in sod knows how long. I am talking about making this a “year of Pete” though … not in the original sense we first used that phrase Ms.Mellipop … but getting back some of that ’sucking the marrow’ spirit I once used to have - minus the more self-destructive aspects.
All of which means (apart from everything else) I’m going to have to change jobs again, and soon …. but hey, it’s about fŨcking time, isn’t it ?
February 7th, 2005 at 3:03 pm
- self preservation is crucial to the survival of the species.. so i say “go for it, lad”. Hurrah..
..everyone needs a bit of space & time to do their own navel reflection. *thanks for the props too *k*
February 7th, 2005 at 3:30 pm
Navel gazing self-reflection … hmm yeah, who needs people like Andy checking you out, when you’re as busy examining yourself for character flaws as I have been of late ?
Well, the first thing I’m gonna do is definitely dye my hair again *nod* Trust a metro-sexual to come up with a ‘product’-based solution for their existential dillemas ;P
February 8th, 2005 at 1:55 pm
I’m surprised that you still want the same kind of things that you did back then - perhaps you haven’t grown up as much as you think…
Mark
February 8th, 2005 at 3:39 pm
Ah, Mr. Papertrap … Devil’s Advocate, as always If you read the post again (and not too carefully at that), you’ll see for the most part I *don’t* want the same things. I don’t want to be Chemical Boy, I don’t *need* to ’shock’ anymore although it still happens on occasion, I’ve more-or-less made my piece with living in Sydney, and I *definitely* don’t want to date bizarre, troubled people, although a creative streak certainly doesn’t go astray.
About the only thing I still want is some of the original ’spirit’ … minus all the shit that used to go with it !
February 8th, 2005 at 5:27 pm
- Amen!
February 9th, 2005 at 12:58 pm
Yeah dude, that’s kinda what I meant.
Mark
February 10th, 2005 at 6:50 pm
Dammit - disregard the tone there. I should probably take up drinking coffee in the mornings. (It would at least stop my mornings from taking place in the afternoon.)
Mark
http://papertrap.net/
February 10th, 2005 at 8:30 pm
Yeah - I hear ya sista…. Here I was thinking that the move to Perth was going to drag me kicking and screaming out of that quitely desperate rut I was in in Sydney. Turns out, I’m in much the same rut now, with a FUCKING AWFUL job that pays FUCK ALL, and which drains both my creativity and my will to live…. Plus - I have no good friends to share the quiet desperation of said rut with a few beers and plenty of laughs on a Sunday afternoon.
But because I have an underemployed partner with absolutely no ambition (and as much as I love him, its true!) and have no money to speak of, I just feel totally trapped in this job I hate so much. I just feel trapped in general. Plus I’m feeling the pressure of being “the bread winner” on a fucking buskers wage, so I can’t live out my all-day fantasy of getting up and storming out of the darn place with my dignity still intact.
I don’t know where we both got our ideas of adulthood from - too many Freedom Furniture commercials maybe - but I think we got it all wrong. Maybe all young adults live lives of yearning mediocrity or the converse - comforting delusion. Maybe this is it , kid…..
Geez, how’s that for a rant…. Today really sucked
February 11th, 2005 at 3:05 pm
“I don’t know where we both got our ideas of adulthood from - too many Freedom Furniture commercials maybe - but I think we got it all wrong. Maybe all young adults live lives of yearning mediocrity or the converse - comforting delusion.”
God … do you think ? There’s a scary frikkin thought !
“Maybe this is it , kid…..”
Noooooooooooooooo !
“Geez, how’s that for a rant…. Today really sucked ;)”
I hear ya sista - and I’m sorry to hear it. Look on the bright side … IG appears to have suffered an (unidentified) spider-bite sometime yesterday or the day before … so has been in considerable pain, throwing up on and off for 2 days, feverish, nausea, stomach cramps … so it could be a lot worse !
Although yeah, it’s a bit tragic when you start having to console yourself with that …